Considering the fact that I am a provider who REQUIRES references for my safety, please note that I am a reference friendly provider as well, meaning I'd be happy to give an ok for you to another provider that you are safe and fun to see, if you:
1) Treated me with respect at all times before, during and after our date and understood that no means no, if the situation calls for it.
2) Made sure that your donation was correct and easily visible without me having to ask for it.
3) Arrived at our date on time, freshly showered, or with enough respect to ask for a shower. Fresh breath is important, TOO!
4) Visited with me in the past 6 months. After all, a lot can change in 6 months...how am I supposed to know if you're still "cool"?
5) Have the respect tocall or email me and ask if I don't mind taking a moment of my day for an ok, and remind me of exactly who you are and how we know each other. Let me know who the lady is that will be contacting me!!I will NOT give references to a lady that I can not verify as legit, fyi.
Also, although I am sure I will immensely enjoy your company after we meet, it is NOT my responsibility to do your reference homework for you when you are wanting to schedule a session with me! Take the time to find your referring providers name, phone number, email address, website and links to her reviews. If I have never heard of you, OR HER, how am I supposed to know if you are both legit?? I don't...therefore, I do my homework verifying SHE is ok, too.You may both be VERY nice people, but I don't know either one of you from Adam, therefore, you have to "prove" yourself to me to get to spend quality time with me!
Also, let the lady you are using as a reference KNOW that someone will be contacting them. It just shows respect for them and their time, and that way they also don't doubt my legitimacy right from the start! Many providers are reference friendly, thank goodness, but there are the occasional ladies who will not only refuse to give a reference, but will go so far as to cuss me out or hang up on me, which certainly doesn't put me in a very good mood, as I'm sure you can understand.
I do NOT accept references from agencies, as there as usually too many varied ladies and clientele for most of them to keep track of, unless they are keeping records of your visits or know you very well. I also DO NOT accept references from "backpage girls" (or girls from any site) with out several reviews on them and a website.
Because I have built such an awesome group of regularfriends that I enjoy spending time with, they often confide in me when something negative (hobby wise) has happened to them, and they sometimes also ask me to find them other providers for them to spend time with when they are in other cities or I'm gone out on tour. Because you are a client of mine, I, obviously, want you to stay safe, be with someone clean and well-reviewed, have a fun date, and not have to worry about getting robbed, beaten up, etc.... For the record, I do NOT mind helping out maybe once or twice when you are first getting started in the hobby, but you need to realize that consistent inquiring about this is now taking up MY personal, precious, private time...and although I receive thanks, I do not get "rewarded" for my hard work, therefore, I have decided that I am offering this as a two-time service ONLY, for clients I have met with more than 3 times. Please do not try and take advantage of my helpfulness. Also, many times you may be visiting a city where I have never been and do not know anyone, so you must understand that I am NOT responsible for whatever transpires, whether good or bad!
I realize that these rules are a little strict, but I will NOT BEND on them, as they are for my safety!!
I do hope that clears up any confusion you might have had, and please feel free to ask me any questions you may have or add any comments!
